Hush little baby don’t say a word, mama’s going to buy you a music therapy session.
A Carroll Gardens musician and psychotherapist is teaching new Brooklyn parents how to compose lullabies to control their offspring’s behavior — essentially creating theme songs for baby activities such as nap time and diaper changes so their infants don’t freak out every time they roll around.
“If it’s something they’re doing every day, like changing a diaper, they probably want a song for it,” said music therapist Vered Benhorin. “The more the baby becomes adjusted to the diaper song, the baby’s body is adjusting to the activity. It’s a behavioral cue.”
Benhorin’s $295, eight-session “Baby in Tune” workshops — held at various locations around Brownstone Brooklyn — teach mamas and papas to bond with their tots in a way that keeps both parties from screaming, she said.
“Most of the time there is a secure bond between parents and babies, but when there’s a new baby, they’re often exhausted and overwhelmed,” Benhorin said. “Music is a way to learn more about your baby, and bond and connect in a way that’s soothing for both baby and parent.”
Most moms and dads are fluent in parentese — a dialect best known as “baby talk” — which possess many of the sing-song qualities of music that rug rats adore, Benhorin said.
But not all parents possess the confidence to develop their natural melodic tendencies into a full-blown lullaby, and that’s where Benhorin comes in.
“Right from the start the relationship is very musical,” said Benhorin. “I help parents become aware of that, and help them develop their repertoire and create their own personal playlist.”
From there, parents learn to compose songs that not only keep their baby’s attention, but also program them to behave themselves for bed time, getting dressed, and of course the dreaded diaper change, among other child-rearing routines.
And the best part of music therapy for babies is that it is not just for babies — Benhorin has also composed a few songs that parents can sing to help themselves soldier on through the consequences of the drastic, life-altering miracle they created.
“I’m trying to pack a lot in this little group,” she said.
Provide your babe the gift of song with Baby in Tune — various times and locations in Park Slope, Windsor Terrace, Carroll Gardens, and Boerum Hill. See www.babyi